![]() How to avoid the 3 year itch?Īlthough there’s plenty of research out there that tends to show the three-year itch really does exist, it’s by no means inevitable.Įvery relationship isn’t destined for a reckoning on its three-year anniversary, so don’t expect it to happen to you. It’s just that the passion, spontaneity and mindfulness that was once on autopilot, falls by the wayside and your relationship becomes…routine. You see it’s not necessarily about falling out of love. We take for granted the fact that our partner is right there by our side, through it all. Predictability and monotony might rear their ugly heads, forcing romance to take a back seat against the logistics of life. ![]() After a few years, couples have probably spent enough time together that the unfavorable habits and traits that were oh-so-easy to forgive (or at least, tolerate) in the honeymoon period, eventually become a little, let’s say, overbearing.So, what is it that happens at the three-year point to create such havoc? I found through research across the world that if you are going to divorce, you tend to divorce around the fourth year of marriage.” When that starts to wear off, there may be a strong emotional attachment - but there may not. “Research shows that initial, intense passion lasts one to three years. “So by the third year, you are beginning to face a powerful breaking point when the wild infatuation has worn off,” Dr Fisher says. Take stock of their partnership and decide whether it’s what they want - or not.īasically, the honeymoon period is over and it’s time to really decide if you’re going to be in it for the long haul, warts ‘n all.ĭr Helen Fisher, author of Why We Love, believes there’s a natural breaking point in a relationship and it often rears its head around the fourth year. It’s called the three-year itch - a phenomenon where tensions rise and couples are forced to either part ways, or adapt. It’s incredibly common for couples to experience a decline in the quality of their relationship, or reach a critical sink or swim, “where do we go from here?” turning point.Īnd it seems it’s especially common to reach this brink about three years in. Things might be OK - but they’re not wonderful. Your partner’s questionable hygiene habits may become completely intolerable and it seems to be a lot more difficult to accept each other’s more irritating points. ![]() You might start to get antsy or take your partner for granted. Love, even.īut then eventually the passion starts to wane, the novelty wears off and things just aren’t so… effortless anymore.įeelings of undying love might fade a little. Ah, the ‘new-ness’ of a relationship - you know what it feels like. ![]()
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